When you “blow up” at a spouse, you always need to defuse the situation as well. Well it is nice to know that I am still loved and appreciated and that my spouse was feeling as unappreciated as I was. Hmm – now that is interesting. While I felt unheard, so did he.
Guess that is why 35 years later we are still together. Honesty. I stated how I felt, and he stated how he felt, and we both listened.
The miracle is that I see him as stronger than ever, when he admits to feeling threatened. Wow! Listen and learn. Always.
Remember to hold hands. Look into each other’s eyes and love – quietly or verbally. Just love.